If there is any two-word phrase in the English language that immediately pisses me off, it’s that. Men who consider cooking, cleaning, laundry, etc to be “women’s work” and refuse to even learn how to do it because of that are delusional. I’ll cook, clean, etc because I’m better at it than you are, but the second you tell me it’s my “job,” or “it’s just what women do,” you’d better hope the couch is comfortable, or that your friends are willing to take you in.
I admit, there are some “guy things” that I don’t know about. I should learn more about cars (ie: how to change a flat tire), but I do know how to mow the grass, fix the computer, fix a leaky faucet, etc. I didn’t refuse to learn those because they’re “guy jobs,” and I expect the guys in my life to have the same attitude towards “women’s jobs.”
What spurred this rant was when my roommate’s bf came home after a “long day at work” (apparently 6.5 hours is a very long day, who knew….?) and was upset that dinner wasn’t ready. She started apologizing, saying that she didn’t know he’d be coming over–you know, since he hadn’t told her–and she was too tired to cook, so she had just eaten leftovers. He kept bitching and moaning about how hungry and tired he was until she was like “fine, let’s go out and get you something.” My response to the situation would have been completely different. You can think in your little mind that cooking is my job, but if I’m too tired to cook once in a while, you’d better not fucking bitch about it. I’m your gf/wife, not your mother. You are perfectly capable of making a sandwich or going out to get yourself dinner. Stop acting like a helpless pathetic idiot, for crying out loud. It’s embarrassing.
Another pitfall to this mentality that some guys have is that some women are just as hopeless at “women’s jobs” as most men are. My friend EK, bless her little heart, can’t make a piece of toast to save her life. But that’s okay, because she’s going to be a lawyer and marry rich, so she’ll be able to afford a cook and a maid 😉